Going through a mommy depression – how do you cope?

I’m in a Funk.. a Depression Funk

by Alicia on March 7, 2011 in New posts, Personal

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DepressionI’ve been in a funk for about a week.  I’ve been on medication for depression and anxiety for years and have experienced what I call ‘funks’ for years but now that I’m older my funks seem to be visiting more often and I don’t like it.  I know I’ll be fine but I think it’s important to be real and need to share with my readers that life isn’t always peaches and roses (is that the saying?) as I’m sure you ALL know!

Here’s what’s going on with me:

  • General depression (since about 14 years old)
  • PTSS – Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome (from a car accident)
  • Degenerative Spinal Arthritis - Diagnosed in 2010.  Painful, but I don’t take the meds because I don’t like the side-effects.
  • Premature Ovarian Failure (AKA Menopause) -  This issue makes me feel older than I am.
  • Chronic Fatigue & Fibromyalgia – Diagnosed in 2009 but also don’t take the meds for this because I don’t like the side-effects.  I’m one of those that has a hard time ‘believing’ in something that I can’t see on an x-ray so these two conditions are difficult for me to accept but multiple doctors have ‘confirmed’ these diagnoses.
  • My husband works too much
  • I work full time (AtlantaMoms.com and TheMommyInsider.com), while helping my 11 year old with homework, entertaining my 4 year old, doing laundry, cooking, playing with the kids, bathing my youngest, putting the kids to bed, grocery shopping, transporting to kid’s events, cleaning, etc..

What happens is that I get in these ‘funks’ but I get MAD at myself for being in a ‘funk’ because I know I have a great life.  I have two beautiful healthy children, a husband, a house, two cars, and supportive family.  What gives me the right to be depressed?

Do you get depressed?  How do you cope?

How do you cope when you get depressed but have life to live, kids to take care of, work to do?  Please share.

Alicia Hagan, Mom Blog editor

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{ 11 comments… read them below or add one }

Karen Hartzell March 11, 2011 at 9:47 am

I too get in a mood once in a while. It can be set off by something small like not going to a summer holiday picnic with family, since now we live so far from everyone. I recognize it though and try to manage it. I give it the day it deserves. No more. No less. I know it’s a slippery slope for me if I let it continue and consume me. Too much going on right now to let that happen.

You did the right thing. You reached out. Keep doing that. :-) Friends will be here.


Gena Morris March 10, 2011 at 11:08 am

Alicia, I deal with PPD and have dealt with depression between that. I have been drug free from it for years. I try to stay active. Turn the music on. Dive into a hobby. Eat lots of cookies. Hope you feel better quickly.


Alicia March 16, 2011 at 10:23 am

Thank you for your comment Gena. I really appreciate it. I’ve been trying to knit.. I actually just finished a headband and a coin purse, so that keeps me occupied and relaxed.. when I have the time!



Naomi March 8, 2011 at 4:09 pm

I think everyone goes through rough patches. I know I do, anyway. I hope things brighten up for you soon.


Alicia March 8, 2011 at 4:13 pm

Thanks Naomi.


Ashley March 8, 2011 at 10:51 am

I hear ya. I suffer from funks too (family trait, apparently) but unlike you, I don’t take anything for them. I understand what it is, I know it’s hereditary on my part, but I am still angered at myself that I get this way too. I don’t want to take meds of any kind (being in the health field I see what they can do) and I just suffer through my funk quietly with no one the wiser and go about my daily routine. (which may or may not be the ideal, but it’s what I do) I wish I had some sage advice, but like the others, having nothing but good wishes to offer. This too shall pass. Thank you for sharing, and keep up the great work you do on your site!


Alicia March 8, 2011 at 2:37 pm

Thank you for the reply Ashley. I’m feeling a little better but the frustration that I feel toward myself for being in a funk lingers. Ugh! Gotta move on!


Cecilia March 7, 2011 at 8:58 pm

Alicia, thanks for sharing your “funk”. I too get in funks, and more as I get older, and continue to try to stretch 24 hours into 48 (unsuccessfully I might add!) I know mine are hormonal as well (aka perimenopause) which in itself is frustrating, and due to lack of consistent sleep and exercise. Like Stephanie, I do not have any sage advice for you, but appreciate you sharing as it is good to know that we all have stuff we deal with daily. I like that you think of your blessings, which it sounds like you have many! All the best, Cecilia


Alicia March 7, 2011 at 9:27 pm

Thanks for commenting Cecilia. I try unsuccessfully as well to stuff 48 hours into 24 and much to my surprise everyday, it never works out. You’d think I would give up but I won’t! The menopause and arthritis issues will be under control soon enough, I hope, so that should help but getting there is tough. Thanks so much for reading and commenting Cecilia. It means a lot to me especially since we’re part of this ‘virtual world’ where we don’t actually ‘talk’ to people about out problems as often as might have in the past.


Stephanie Portman March 7, 2011 at 2:33 pm

Thanks for sharing Alicia! I wish I could share some secret that I have found that helps, but I don’t have one. I just wanted to say thank you, because it is nice to know that I am not alone in my funks and the anger about them!


Alicia March 7, 2011 at 2:35 pm

Thank you for your feedback Stephanie. There just doesn’t seem to be a secret answer to ‘the funk’, I guess. You (we) are definitely not alone and we have to always remember that no matter how alone we feel at the time.


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